The Ruth Project

Becoming a parent is one of the biggest transformations in life. It changes how we spend our time, how we relate to others, and even how we see ourselves. Many parents feel lost in this transition, wondering, Who am I now? In this week’s HELP! episode, we explore the identity shift in parenthood, why it happens, and how we can reclaim our sense of self. Why Do Parents Feel Like They’ve Lost Themselves? Less time for personal interests Changes in friendships & relationships Career shifts & financial stress New societal expectations How Does This Affect Mental Health? Higher risk of postnatal depression & anxiety Burnout & exhaustion Feelings of isolation How to Reclaim Your Identity as a Parent Reconnect with what you love – Even in small ways, hobbies and passions matter. Make time for yourself – It’s not selfish; it’s essential. Lean on your village – Traditional whānau support systems helped parents avoid isolation. Challenge unrealistic expectations – Being a ...

Parenthood is a massive transition, both physically and emotionally. Many parents feel exhausted, forgetful, and emotionally drained for months or even years after birth—but is this just normal tiredness, or something more? This week on HELP! we explored Postnatal Depletion —what it is, why it happens, and how parents can recover. What is Postnatal Depletion? Postnatal depletion is a prolonged state of exhaustion caused by the immense demands of pregnancy, birth, and early parenting. Unlike postpartum depression, which is a mental health condition, postnatal depletion is a mix of physical, mental, and emotional fatigue . Symptoms of Postnatal Depletion Feeling physically weak or constantly tired Brain fog, forgetfulness Emotional exhaustion, increased anxiety Frequent illnesses due to weakened immunity Loss of identity or feeling disconnected What Causes Postnatal Depletion? Nutrient depletion (iron, omega-3, B12, magnesium) Lack of sleep and recovery time Hormonal changes after birth...

Parenting is one of the most rewarding roles, but it also comes with immense pressure. Many parents struggle with exhaustion, emotional overwhelm, and self-doubt—but few talk about it. This week on HELP! we discussed Parental Burnout —what it is, why it happens, and what can be done to prevent it. What is Parental Burnout? Parental burnout is a state of chronic stress and exhaustion caused by the demands of parenting. Unlike temporary stress, burnout leads to emotional detachment, loss of joy, and physical symptoms like headaches and fatigue. Signs of Burnout Feeling emotionally drained and irritable. No longer enjoying time with your children. Physical exhaustion, sleep issues, and frequent illness. Increased self-criticism or guilt about parenting. Why Does It Happen? High expectations and social pressure. Lack of support systems. Work-life imbalance. Personal perfectionism. What Can Help? Letting go of perfection: No one is a perfect parent. Asking for help: Leaning on whānau , c...